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Manisha Bhatia is the author of book, When My Father Cried, a romantic fiction novel released on 4th September by Story Mirror at Oxford Bookstore :)
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At times I have realized this strange but yet quite delightful phenomenon about me that when I get deeply engrossed into something from my heart and soul, I get attached to each and every small entity and emotion associated with that particular thing as well. Yes, it happens in the case of person too but we can discuss that some time later through some other write-up. The thought crossed my mind so many times as I used to often feel it. At times I ignored or find it stupid to accept but can thoughts ever leave a writer? .So I was pondering over it trying to find the reason behind this behaviour about being attached to small yet significant things before I succumbed to accepting the fact that yes I do get attached to every small thing and somewhere is also quite happy and about it.
Apart from me one of a dear friend of mine too noticed this particular habit of mine. While we were discussing about our writing journey and sharing our dreams over a cup of coffee he said to me-

“You know Mani, why this happens with you?
 Why, I too asked very inquisitively?

It happens because you possess fear of losing, which overpowers your heart and hence you just can’t tolerate the thought of parting away from even a small thing you love from your life which is already yours, said he.
Is it? I questioned myself many times. Well, I did brood over on it too but then it did not fit into any logical conclusion so I had to shrug off the reasoning given by him. It was not related to the past personal or emotional losses of my life, because being a very emotional person I am also a very practical person at the same time. When I move ahead I am confident and stern enough to never turn back. No never because of my rage or emotions just because those things doesn’t entice me enough to hold on as of now and my heart and mind has taken a unanimous decision to look forward in life.
For me past is past and I don’t mull over it to ruin my present. The past is gone...
I realized this and now accepted the fact that attachment to each n every small thing associated with me, my work, my writing or as per anything which is very close to me and my heart is blended in my intrinsic nature. It is the way I am and somewhere it draws me more near to the similar.
Is what I am writing sounding like a puzzle to you right now? If yes, then let me unfold the layers and explain what and how? Let me explain it throughsomethingwhich has effortlessly clambered in my life and with every passing moment it is blending me deep within and in the process is unleashing the real ME.
It is strange and true that at times when I get tired and shattered from the dismays of life I feel it to be the most important reason to keep me going on. It has given me new dimensions, beliefs, energy, recognition, love n support, new acquaintances, a new horizon, and above all “DREAMS”. I know only one thing that whether something happens in life or not but this should never stop. It is my “WRITING” so special to me and hence each and every small thing which becomes a part of it naturally become special hence probably the reason for my attachment as well as respect.
I am still not being able to categorize it and I really don’t want to as I love the things raw and candid. They are pure and deep that way. I don’t know it is my love, passion, need, something else or nothing. I have no idea about ordinary, good, bad, extraordinary, famous, and non-famous. I just don’t know and at times really don’t feel to know. For me writing is just writing as simple, deep and meaningful as it is.  I like to keep things simple just as they are.
“I write what I feel, writing heals”. It is like a joy to my soul hence very special to me.
Every small thing related to my writing- My room, my desk at office (abode of my first writing which I took seriously), my laptop, the small diary I possess, my phone (my biggest rescue when I have nothing in hand to save thoughts), my cup of mocha , music (like food to me and often the reason to take me off from the surroundings because peaceful surroundings are just a far story from my life), the random scribbling here n there, my blog, my page, my buddies with their incessant love n support, my emotions, I, ME, MYSELF...and the list is endless. I am quite possessive about each and everything associated with my writing. Needless to mention so am I with each and every verse & writing of mine be it drafts or completed.
My Cup of Mocha
My phone

My lappy n the small diary

It is the same case with me in every aspect of my life when anything or anyone becomes special to me in my life, I get attached to each and everything associated with that otherwise me as a person is as reluctant to not even care not because I covet or not, it is just that it doesn’t entices me to get attached. In simple words there is no feeling. For me things should come effortlessly otherwise they never pull me enough to be the real ME with them.
I always feel- My emotions only know extreme just nothing in between”. I can’t dwell in between it has to be either this way or that way.
So does it happen with you as well? I am sure it must be happening with you also that when your heart is close to something, you automatically get attached to every small thing associated with that particular thing as well. Ask a painter what their painting stand, brushes, colours, canvas, and each and every painting mean to them. Ask a dancer what their costume, music, accessories, and mentor mean to them. Ask a singer or a musician what their musical instruments or a sportsperson, technician, programmer, anyone in case who is deeply engrossed in any activity or profession from their heart and soul what their paraphernalia means to them.
If asked me- “They mean the world to them” A world which allows them to be very candid, original, and let them be just themselves”.

Leaving you with a thought my dear ones- “Have you too ever felt this way” What is your opinion on the similar?
While I was crafting this creation
I am still pondering on and let’s see if I can come up with some deeper thoughts through a different aspect again next time associated with attachment in our lives...

@Copyright 2012- Manisha Bhatia


melissa said...

Hi Mani...this post is very interesting. In the process of detachment, I am faced with this.

Personally, I guess, I get more attached with people...with memories...okay, a few of my favorite little' things/routines.

I remember when I left S. Africa to start a new life, I threw 'all' the things I kept from that place. I thought I'd get rid of the memories attached to them but I was able to write "Memoirs of a Young Traveler (my diary)" because of it.

I think when we begin to see ourselves more as someone unique and appreciated for who and what we are, then we do not have to get attached to anything or anyone else :)

Lawrence said...

As I am reading your post, I started questioning myself. I too afraid of lossing something or someone that became a part of my life. Perhaps, that fear is rooted from the feeling of attachment. And maybe, for the unknown that one may face in moving on.

~ Colors and Grays

Irene @ Inspiration From The Little Things said...

Hi Mani :-) I think I understand what you feel. I, too, can get attached to what / who I love. Way too attached. That when it is inevitable to get separated from that person / object, I get this deep feeling of loneliness that I could not explain.

I am "trying" not to be too attached to anything because it really hurts when I lose them.

This was a thought-provoking post, Mani. Take care :-)

CYNOSURE said...

this is a very common human behavior which i guess everyone shows one or the other time for different thing...The fact is who accepts it...obviously many times it hurts...but its also necessary to keep our sensitive part alive within us...

nicely written... :)
tc...Cyno... :)

FherYmas said...

First of all, I like the color of your nail polish :)
Probably, I would answer those questions with regards to painters...as an artist, I am quite emotional and extremely very attach to my artwork. It is sometime hard to let go an artwork, as if I am giving away a part of me.
When I paint, I step into a dimension where only me and my art materials exist...sometimes skipping meal and literally going into fasting.
Was it bad to be attached into things? Not at all, as long as you have the courage to accept that all of these are temporal...
The fire will test each men's work...
"Every man's work shall be made manifest: for the day shall declare it, because it shall be revealed by fire; and the fire shall try every man's work of what sort it is." - 1 Cor. 3:13
Thanks Mani for this informative article.

Tameka said...

I think when we are truly passionate about something it is very easy to become lost in it. Sometimes if there is no balance, we can become obsessed. It sounds like you make efforts to have balance though so I wouldn't worry too much. You are just a passionate being. When you are feeling too attached use your escapes to see you through. Writing, java and music. I like those escapes too, well, tea for me actually. Cheers and hugs!


Andy David said...

My dear Mani,
Who really knows the human mind and heart? I don't have the answers of course but enjoy writing about love and romance as you know. Do what makes you happy and always be in control of all your emotions and desires. Thanks for sharing this priceless creation my sweet friend.

Simran said...

Mani Dear,
How's ya buddy?
A great post again.Me too feels the same with each and every little thing or to someone I'm connected with all my heart. As far as what I think your friend is true in my case... There's nothing like I lost something or someone but still I fears not to loose that something or someone makes me possessive and even more connected.

Enjoyed the post... Loved it! Love you :)
Keep sharing <3

Mani said...

@Mely- Yes I hv too started realzing this while in the process f dwelling me I m slowly feelin nt requiring anyone.


Mani said...

@lawrence- Yes truly at times but not alwys :)

Mani said...

Cyno- Turly :)

Mani said...

Fher- You r truly mad for ur art n fr me dpoint s yet toarrive:)

Mani said...

@Tam/Andy/Sim- Love u buddies,thanks fr sharing urs.


Rahul Bhatia said...

Keep writing and follow your heart Mani:)

Jyoti Mishra said...

The moment u start feeling about something, or the things which manage to secure a place in your mind... at that instant only.. a connection is establishes n with connection comes attachment..

with living beings it is fine.. but when it comes to non-living things n objects ppl like u n me begin to wonder. :)
a lovely post mani..

Dangerous Linda said...

Hi, Mani! ~

Of course, I'm very fond of all the small things attached to, say, writing. But, I don't think I can afford to be completely attached to anything or even to anyone. The only 'thing' I allow myself to become truly, permanently attached to is the Spirit within me because that is the only 'thing' which will never, ever leave me.

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Obat Peninggi Badan said...

good posting about attachment

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